For the last few years, I believed that what I wanted was to
experience complete visibility in my relationships.To feel completely visible was
my end goal, and I was certain that if I did not have this, my
relationships would all remain surface level, lacking in depth and
substance.
Only recently did I realize that this idea was too simplistic. Visibility is required to an extent, but beyond that is also the need for mystery, or rather, the respect of mystery. Acknowledgement that our souls are oceans, with depths and corners unknown even to us. The corners have their own life, their own darkness, their own tides and currents. Not only are they not completely visible to us, they may never be visible to anyone else. These corners are discovered by us little by little- some in moments of supreme joy, and many during storms of deep sorrow.
In addition to craving a level of visibility, to the extent of knowing that the people we love see us, and we see them, is the need for our inner circle to respect and embrace our mysteries.
The truth of us, the prism that colors our beings, is too multi faceted to be completely visible to everyone. Just as important as me seeing you is my respect for your darkness- the things that belong to only you (and your god). It is a trust of your mysteries and a dedication to protecting them. I guess I am realizing that part of Visibility, and the love that comes along with desiring to truly see someone else, comes the other aspect, which is protecting the silent place where everyone goes from time to time to either grow or fight demons or rest or explore. It is reading body language and knowing when silence is required; or trusting enough not to ask questions that will overexpose or cheapen another; it is being a warrior without requiring an explanation; or burying a secret and never making mention of it again; protection of the unknown.
True visibility, to me, is not only seeing the people in our lives for who and what they are, and respecting that, but also a level of trust and respect for the isolation that deeper souls require to encounter and experience their own beautiful depths and phases.
Only recently did I realize that this idea was too simplistic. Visibility is required to an extent, but beyond that is also the need for mystery, or rather, the respect of mystery. Acknowledgement that our souls are oceans, with depths and corners unknown even to us. The corners have their own life, their own darkness, their own tides and currents. Not only are they not completely visible to us, they may never be visible to anyone else. These corners are discovered by us little by little- some in moments of supreme joy, and many during storms of deep sorrow.
In addition to craving a level of visibility, to the extent of knowing that the people we love see us, and we see them, is the need for our inner circle to respect and embrace our mysteries.
The truth of us, the prism that colors our beings, is too multi faceted to be completely visible to everyone. Just as important as me seeing you is my respect for your darkness- the things that belong to only you (and your god). It is a trust of your mysteries and a dedication to protecting them. I guess I am realizing that part of Visibility, and the love that comes along with desiring to truly see someone else, comes the other aspect, which is protecting the silent place where everyone goes from time to time to either grow or fight demons or rest or explore. It is reading body language and knowing when silence is required; or trusting enough not to ask questions that will overexpose or cheapen another; it is being a warrior without requiring an explanation; or burying a secret and never making mention of it again; protection of the unknown.
True visibility, to me, is not only seeing the people in our lives for who and what they are, and respecting that, but also a level of trust and respect for the isolation that deeper souls require to encounter and experience their own beautiful depths and phases.
